On Behalf Of The Pinterest Moms

"I honestly think this is the most successful Pinterest projects I've ever seen in one room."

 By her tone, I couldn't tell if she meant it as a compliment. I decided to go ahead and take it as one anyway.

My best friend was walking through my house, taking in the many crafts and recipes that I had completed for my son's Dr. Seuss themed 1st birthday party.

I didn't tell her that I got a lot of the ideas from Pinterest but she knew. My obsession with the popular inspiration board website is well known among my friends and family.

I am what they called a Pinterest Mom, a term that I believe was coined to throw shade at women like me. But I own it. In fact, I take pride in it.

My kids' hospital bracelets and newborn caps did not get packed away in storage boxes. They were placed in adorable, homemade Christmas ornaments.


If I have to send fruit in for a class party, I don't run into Shop Rite for a pre-made tray. I make something like this.

When one of my kids finds a pine cone in the backyard, it's craft time.

When they want to be something obscure, like The Gruffalo, for Halloween, I don't tell them to just pick something from the costume store. I break out the fabric scissors and get to work.

 And, like any Pinterest Mom worth her Pink Himalayan Sea Salt, I do The Elf.

Since Pinterest launched in 2010, it has become the internet's go-to spot for recipes, craft ideas, outfit inspiration and much more. But it has received some backlash as well. A 2012 Buzzfeed article went viral when it claimed that Pinterest was killing feminism by giving women a one stop shop for healthy recipes, fitness inspiration and interior decorating ideas. Gawker even went so far as to call it "the Mormon housewife's image bookmarking service of choice."

At last I checked, it was not anti-feminist to want to be healthy and live in a pretty house.

But I digress. I'm not here to talk about Pinterest and feminism. I'm here to talk about Pinterest and Mom Culture.

The term "Pinterest Mom" has started to feel like a backhanded compliment, as Moms who opt out of these types of projects project a sort of defensive pride in their decision to forego the DIY versions of everything from teacher gifts to holiday decorations. The implication is that these projects are cute but I only do them because my life revolves completely around my children and I have no hobbies, interests or personality of my own.

Guess what? This is my hobby. And it has been since long before Pinterest came into my life.

Before I was making Halloween costumes for my son, I was making Greek letter shirts for my sorority sisters. Before I was throwing elaborately themed parties for our kids, I was throwing them for my husband. This is who I am. 

Pinterest hasn't forced me to give up part of myself in order to create cutesy crafts for my kids. It has given me an avenue to include my kids in the things that I have always enjoyed.

And let me just say this one more time, a little bit louder for the folks in the back:

Motherhood is not a competition.

I'm not trying to one up anyone. I just like crafting.

If I decide to make homemade heart-shaped crayons for the class Valentine's Day party, it's not because I think they're better than your store bought Paw Patrol valentines. It's because I wanted to make homemade heart-shaped crayons and the class Valentine's Day party gave me an excuse.

If crayon making isn't your thing, that's fine. You do you, Mama. You're fabulous and my kid loved the Paw Patrol valentine.

As woman and as moms, we need each other. Our strong female friendships are more important now, when we are struggling under the weight of motherhood, than they have ever been in our lives.

There are plenty of influences in the media and in our daily lives that are constantly trying to turn us against each other. Let's not add crafts and recipes to the list.


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